Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the "boys will be boys" conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.

I've been exclusive with a guy for about a month. I've mentioned that I want to hang out more and he seems to be making an effort, but he never, ever, ever texts me. Ever. I always text first, I always make plans (unless it's a late Saturday night plan). He says he doesn't text me because he "forgets" or "is busy."  Am I stupid for giving him the benefit of the doubt? - Confused at Claremont McKenna

Confused,

For self-admitted hopeless romantics like myself and fellow Real Live College Guy Pat Bradley,  these types of questions can be some of the most difficult to answer.

Along with writing for Her Campus Nationals, both of us are active members of the respective HC chapters at our schools. We love girls and we love working with them, so when we get questions about why boyfriends are acting MIA, it's tough. Since we are in the communications business, we despise their lack of communicating just as much as you do.

Now to put it bluntly, yes, I think in this case you are being "stupid" for giving him the benefit of the doubt. 

Personally, I'm not one to give bad communicators any excuse. Those "I was busy" or "I forgot" reasons for not texting are complete and total hogwash. It's not difficult to text first. Call me old-fashioned, but the boyfriend should be setting up dates at least once every weekend. So yes, your boyfriend should be doing a better job seeking you out. He should want to text you. He should want to hang out with you every day. So failing to initiate conversation at least a few times a week with you is a major relationship error. It's not difficult to pick up the phone before you go to bed to chat for a few minutes. It’s unfair to you!

Simply put, communicating frequently and doing so honestly are two crucial parts of making a relationship work. And this boyfriend of yours is failing miserably at both.

Plus to make matters worse it sounds as if making plans with him is like pulling teeth. Unless we are talking about long distance, neither party in a relationship should ever be bothered about the lack of face time with each other.

It sounds to me like this boyfriend of yours is treating you like nothing but a booty call. There is little more you can do with this guy. There is no magic switch you can flip to get him to be a better communicator. It's time to find someone better. I would instead find someone who will gladly send you a good morning text. There are guys out there who will do that.

So you’re single. Maybe you and your ex have just called things off after weeks and weeks of arguing and silence. You thought you’d be relieved after all the drama passed, but instead you find yourself lonely and craving someone to cuddle with at night. Or maybe the two of you have been apart for a while, and every so often you find yourself thinking about him or her.

The thought crosses your mind to just find somebody new, but you’re not ready for all of that. All you’re looking for is a little attention, not a new boyfriend. So is it bad to call your ex for a little fun?

It all depends. Maybe you’ve both matured, maybe enough time has passed or maybe it could be the worst possible move you could make right now.

Every situation is different, and you should do what works for you after weighing the options. Read on for the pros and cons of rekindling the physical side of a past relationship.

The Pros of Hooking Up

1. You Already Know Each Other

Hooking up with someone new is exciting, but it takes so much effort: introducing yourself, coming across smoothly, finding a graceful exit if the night takes a weird turn, etc. With your ex, however, you're in familiar territory. Sure, there’s no thrill of the unknown, but you'll probably have an enjoyable time. 

“Ex hook-ups are great because you can skip all the awkwardness of first-time hook-ups, and an ex is already aware of the things you like/don't [like],” says Sammi Baum, a junior at the University of Hawaii.

Tina B. Tessina, author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, thinks hooking up with an ex isn’t such a bad idea. “Not only are you already comfortable with this person sexually, but also there's little at stake since the relationship aspect is over," she says.

2. It Could Lead to a Reunion

Maybe your relationship ended over something frivolous. Maybe it was simply bad timing. While you shouldn’t let a hook-up be the sole reason you give a relationship another shot, it could be just what the two of you need to get the ball rolling.

Rachel McHugh, a junior at Lancaster University, used to think that hooking up with exes was a stupid thing to do. However, in her last year of high school, Rachel ignored all previous instincts and gave her ex another shot. “Five years on and we are still together, and I'm so glad I gave him a chance,” she says.

The Cons of Hooking Up

1. The Drama: Round Two

You broke up for a reason, and chances are whoever feels he or she was wronged during the breakup will find some way to voice that grievance during the reunion. Who wants to have a couples’ fight with someone you are no longer coupled with?

Allie Sutherland, a senior at Syracuse University, says she found this out after hooking up with an ex. “It felt fine very briefly, but it didn't change any of the reasons we initially broke up, and I know that the reason I did it was because I just missed the feeling of being with a guy I was comfortable with more than I missed the actual person,” she says.

2. You Risk Getting Reattached

It's always a bad idea to hook up with your ex if one of you still has feelings for the other. If he's not over the relationship (and you are), just go for someone else. If you're not over the relationship (and he is), you'll just prolong the time it takes for you to move on.

Jordan Sypek, a junior at the University of Tampa, has hooked up with an ex before. However, she thinks that if you’re still not over your ex, you shouldn’t hook up with him.

“Getting with an ex while you still think of him every day is a horrible idea,” she says. “It will leave you even more sad because you got a little taste of what you used to have, but won't ever have again.”

Dr. Michelle Golland, a California-based clinical psychologist and relationship expert, says that although returning to a former lover may seem comfortable and convenient, it could actually be a sign that you’re not willing to fully move on from the relationship.

"It's just a sign [that] you're not ready to really end this and create a new life for yourself," she says. "It's really unhealthy to lead each other on emotionally.”

3. Your Health Could Be at Risk

Even if the number of partners you’ve been with hasn’t changed, your ex’s could have. Hooking up with or without asking about his or her sexual history could lead to you contracting an STD.  Be sure you both get tested before any hook-ups occur. Not all sexually transmitted diseases show obvious symptoms, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.

If You DO Hook Up, Here’s What You Should Do

Let Enough Time Pass

If you want to start hooking up with your ex, you should wait until at least a few months, if not more, have gone by. Even if you had an amicable and mutual breakup, you should let the dust settle before you try to get back in bed with your ex, or things are bound to get complicated.

Make Your Intentions Clear

Before you even touch your ex's lips with your own, you should make your intentions and expectations clear. Tell him you want to hook up without any strings attached, that you're not looking to get back into the relationship and that you just want to have a little fun. Let him know you only want to see him to hook up, not to do all the date-y stuff that leads to hooking up.

Or, if you are looking at a hook-up as a way to get back with an ex, be upfront about it. Give him a chance to express his intentions and feelings about the situation. That way, you’re better able to make an informed decision. But if you both really are looking for the same thing, then it's safe to go for it.

If You DON’T Hook Up, Here’s What You Should Do

Try Something New

Boredom is a big reason why some people go back for another round with their exes. To keep yourself occupied and not reveling in the past, try a new hobby or sport. Check out our story on six new hobbies to try out!

Break Out of Your Comfort Zone

With an ex, you're regressing. You're trying to recapture what's already gone. Besides, you might be missing out on someone new. Try your luck with the guy from your psychology class you’ve had a crush on since last semester. Who knows, maybe he felt the same way! Why not give it a shot? Starting over may be hard, but the beginning of a relationship can be fun and carefree, so give it a try. Even if nothing comes out of it, you may have found a new study buddy or a good friend.

Before you decide to hook up or not, be sure to weigh your options. A few hours of fun can lead to something you deeply regret later. Collegiettes, have you ever hooked up with an ex? Is it ever a good idea? Let us know in the comments below!

Text messaging is great. Not only is it convenient and quick, but it’s also less pressured than traditional calling and is an awesome tool to use for flirting when a class lecture is oh-so-dull. The only downside to texting, of course, is the lack of the nonverbal and verbal cues we take for granted in face-to-face communication. When you and your guy are texting, you can’t read his facial expressions, his body language, or his tone of voice when he tells you something.

If you’ve been getting texts from guys that have you running to your roommate and going “Huh?” (and who doesn't?) you’re in luck! We asked a few college guys to give us the scoop on what their texts really mean. And if you’ve got a guy who isn’t texting you back, there could be 100 reasons why. (Advice: Stop texting that guy.)

According to Sean, one of our Real Live College Guys, you’ll get a response from a guy every time when he likes you (as a friend or more). So let’s tackle the texts we’re getting from the guys!


The “Good Morning” Text

All of the guys we surveyed indicated that a text first thing in the morning from your guy is a good sign. Rob*, a Hiram College senior, says, “I’ll text something like ‘Good morning, sunshine’ to wake her up and keep her smiling all day.” When a guy sends you this kind of text, (especially the morning after a date or hook-up), it means that he’s thinking about you and wants you to think about him the rest of the day.

Text back: “Good morning! I’m about to go get breakfast. Wanna join me? ;)” Why wait to see him? Mention that you’re heading to the dining hall for breakfast or invite him to join you on your Starbucks run.

The “Friend-Zoning” Text

Friend-zoning texts tend to include the words “like a sister to me” or “buddy” or “pal” in them. You know how it goes. You met this great guy at a party, and he’s been texting you about some hobby you share or something funny you both witnessed. Then you start flirting, and the guy starts calling you his buddy whenever he responds to you. According to Sean, friend-zoning texts are “the kiss of death for flirting.”

Text back: nothing. While your guy could be lying, as proven by this study, it’s a safe bet that it would be a good idea to cool your flirting. If you keep trying to flirt with a guy who has sent you the friend-zoning text, you risk scaring him off. “Unless you’re actually looking for male friendship, move on,” Sean says. “The friend zone is a dead end.”

The “I have to cancel” Text

So you and your guy planned a date for tonight, but he texts you and says he’s sick and has to cancel. If he doesn’t offer to reschedule, he could be standing you up. “Unless I’m actually sick, it means I don’t want to really hang out,” says Paul*, a Hobart College junior. So how can you tell for sure?

Text back: “Aw. I can bring you soup or [other item to cheer him up].” According to Sean, a guy who is genuinely sick will likely accept your offer of comfort. “Most guys would love some TLC when they’re feeling ill,” says Sean. And if the guy declines your offer or suddenly got sick only an hour before he’s supposed to see you? “He’s probably blowing you off,” Sean says. A guy who likes you will either reschedule the date or find another way to see you. Nothing short of the end of the world will stop him.

The “one-word” Text

One-word texts are the most frustrating texts of all. Usually, this means that he doesn’t want to take the time to send you a full reply because he’s otherwise preoccupied and doesn’t want you to think he’s ignoring you. It can also mean he’s annoyed about something. Matt, who recently graduated from Stark State College, says, “He’s not wanting to talk or something at least is bothering him, and he’s being short for a reason.”

Text back: “Not very talkative today, eh?” According to Sean, this will help you gauge the situation. Your guy might respond with a longer answer and let you know what’s up, and you can take it from there. Unless you’ve asked a question that only requires a one-word answer, regular short responses from a guy you’re flirting with are a bad sign.

The Compliment Text

If you’re getting compliments, then you’re in luck. He likes you! He really, really likes you! According to our survey, guys compliment girls who’ve snagged their interest. Tue, a University of Louisville sophomore, says, “If I like a girl, I’ll text some compliment that I like about her distinct personality.”

Text back: “Thank you! You’re not too bad yourself!” You want to make sure to thank him and follow up by complimenting him as well. It’s a great opportunity to try out your flirtexting. Keep it light and fun. Hopefully, it will lead to a date!

The Random “Come Over” Text

According to Ben, a University of Pittsburgh senior, a guy who sends you a late-night text and asks to come over wants a booty call. He’s not making a date, which usually requires more time to plan, but he does want to see you... for sex. “I texted ‘hey, sweetness’ as a joke once, and it actually worked. I use it mostly for booty calls,” Ben says. Then he often asks the girl if she wants to come over or if he can come over to her place.

Text back: Yes or no, depending on whether you want to be a booty call or not. You can also text him back and tell him that you’re not interested and let the subject drop. If you’re a girl who’s looking for a committed relationship, guys who send you these kinds of texts early in the dating game should be crossed off your list.

The Explicit Photo Text

This kind of text has no alternative meaning. Sean says, “When a guy starts sexting, he wants sex, 100 percent of the time.” Your sexting partner is being upfront with what he wants, so be honest with what you want. Do you want to have casual sex with him? If so, it’s time to find that sexy Victoria’s Secret lingerie set.

Text back: A racy (but not over the top) photo. Check out our guide to sexting before you begin. Reveal enough to get him excited to see you, but don’t reveal so much that your sexy photo ends up somewhere you wouldn’t want it to be. Sexting is fun, but just like sex, you still need to be safe.

Need more guy behavior decoded?  Submit a question to our Real Live College Guys!

It’s Monday and you have a coffee date with Steve. Tuesday arrives, and it’s time to have lunch with Paul. On Wednesday, you’re hooking up with Ryan. Thursday rolls around and you’re having a “sleepover” with Alex. Friday comes and you meet a new guy at the bar. You're texting him all weekend long.

You’ve got yourself a handful of mini dates, hook-ups whenever you want them, and attention all around, but you’re missing out on the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing. It can be hard to juggle multiple guys at once and even harder to say “bye bye” to all but one guy and turn the chosen one into the real deal (especially in college when long-term relationships are almost nonexistent).

Her Campus is here to help you pick and choose which guy is boyfriend material and learn how to replace your one-too-many casual flings with the one real thing. We’ve even talked to the guys themselves to learn what this oh-so-mysterious species thinks (you’re welcome!).

First things first, distinguish between a casual fling and the real thing.

Weigh the good and bad.
There are pros and cons to both: the go-with-the-flow feeling of a casual fling, and the date nights/meet-the-parents moment of the real thing. Flirting and texting is not the same as dating. And neither is drunkenly hooking up on the weekends.

Figure out where you stand.
You can generally figure out where the relationship is heading (or ending) by the way you treat each other. More clearly put, does he only text you late at night? Have you still not met his friends? Then it’s most likely not the real thing.

“Usually I decide whether or not I want to take the next step when we start having heart to hearts and we begin to confide in each other like a real couple. With casual flings, it's just purely a flirtation-ship, we usually don't have deep conversations, and I try to keep our relationship as light and unconnected as possible,” says Nicole, a sophomore at the University of California Riverside.

"Getting a feel for the other person, and how that person treats you is important. If you don't know, just ask!” says Adam, a recent graduate of Illinois State University.

Decide if the “real thing” is truly what you want.
Do you have a super busy schedule? Did you just go through a messy breakup? If so, you might not be ready for the real thing. If you can barely make time to meet a guy for drinks, how do you expect to commit to a serious relationship? Give some time for the initial “can’t get enough of you” feeling to wear off and see if you’re still crushing on the guy. If you can imagine yourself bringing him to family functions and are ready to do fun couple-y things with him (like staying in on a Saturday night and ordering take-out), go get it girl!

Whatever you do, do not act like you’re dating on day one of your casual fling. 
This will freak the guy out and jeopardize the future of your relationship. If you’re texting him 24/7 and always wanting to know what he’s up to from the very beginning, he’s going to feel smothered and you’re not going to get the boyfriend you want. “Go into it without expectations. You can't put pressure on it. If it's supposed to turn into the real thing, it will. Just have fun and see what happens!” says Lauren, a senior at the University of Michigan.

Next you have to define “boyfriend” and figure out which guy fits the description. 
Some casual flings are meant to be that and only that, but others have the potential to be more. “If he's really social and easygoing, you know he'd be good boyfriend material. If he's really stand-offish and negative, you may want to rethink trying to make him into your next boyfriend,” says Laura, a junior at Virginia Tech. Remember that your idea of a “boyfriend” may be entirely different from your best friend’s. If he’s great in bed but doesn’t have much else to offer, he’s probably not your best bet for the real deal. But if he gets along with your friends and acts interested in you (and not just your body), he may be a potential suitor.

But keep in mind, not all single guys are looking for the real thing.
“Just because he’s single doesn’t mean he’s available. For example, a second semester senior, or someone who’s going to be going abroad in the near future might not be interested in a real relationship, no matter who you are, just because of their circumstances,” says Yussef, a senior at the University of Michigan. 

You could try a direct approach and say, “I want to take our relationship to the next level.”
This is a good tactic to use if you’re a bold girl who wants quick results. “I think the best thing to do is say, ‘I think we should stop seeing each other. You're awesome, but I'm looking for something a bit more serious right now,’” says Michelle, a junior at Emerson College. If the guy isn’t on the same page as you, walk away.

If you’re more of a show by doing girl, start acting like a girlfriend and not a casual fling and things just might fall into place without having “the talk”.
"Actually care about the guy. Text him and ask how his day is. Be there for him and show him that you are interested. A fling is usually initiated by a guy, but getting more serious I feel like is initiated by the girl,” says Mark, a senior at the University of Michigan. Don’t just sit around and play mind games wondering when he’s going to ask you to be his girlfriend. You have to take action if you want to turn your casual fling into the real thing. Some easy strategies: don’t be available at his convenience, don’t take him for granted, and don’t hook up with other guys.

“If you can be their friend and the person they have a casual fling with, making the transitions to being exclusive and having a real relationship can go pretty smoothly. To this extent, try getting a coffee or two, study with them, or ask for something simple like a ride or a trip to the grocers,” Yussef says.

Do not hook up with him on day one of your casual fling if you want any chance of turning him into the real thing. 
I’m sure you’ve all heard this a million times and I know how hard it is from personal experience, but really – just don’t do it. Waiting is way better than the instant gratification of a hook-up if a relationship is what you want. “You have to make the guy work for it and respect you as an individual before turning the relationship into something more serious,” says Audrey, a graduate of the University of Michigan.

Don’t think that the sex will suddenly disappear in a serious relationship because, chances are, it won’t.
Just don’t give it up too soon. “Yeah, hooking up is great and all, but it doesn’t necessarily build the relationship you’re looking for. You have to find ways to involve a person in your life, and to become involved in theirs,” Yussef says.

Tell the casual flings that didn’t quite make the cut that you are done being their playthings, arm candy, booty calls, entertainment, etc.
“I let casual flings down by slipping into the conversation the name of the guy I see as the real deal. When you start talking about another guy with one of your flings he'll usually get the clue that you guys are simply flirting and that nothing is going to happen between you two,” Nicole says. As far as what mode of communication to use, you have to look at it on a case-by-case basis.

“Like if it's just a booty call that texts you every weekend after 2 am, a simple text will suffice,” Laura says. Try not to lead on your casual flings and suddenly disappear without any explanations. You wouldn’t feel great in this situation and neither will he. If you’re ready to be in a more serious relationship and can’t picture him as your future boyfriend, tell him how you feel before fleeing.

It all comes down to you—who YOU want to date, how YOU want to be treated, what YOU want in the real deal. Follow our tips and avoid that awkward moment when Steve sees you out with Paul. We hope this guide helps you collegiettes transform your casual flings into the real thing. Share your own strategies in the comments!

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, collegiettes, and you’re probably getting pretty excited—if you have a date, that is. But for you single collegiettes out there, here are a few hilarious e-cards from Someecards.com that probably express how you’re feeling about February 14 better than your standard Valentine's day card would.

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Hopeless romantics and cynics alike, gather ‘round: let’s pretend for a second that everything we know about soul mates we’ve learned from television.

Lesson number one: They undoubtedly exist. There was never any doubt that Rachel would get off the plane for Ross or that Sabrina would ride off on the back of Harvey’s motorcycle. And of course, Cory and Topanga lasted long enough to spawn two children and a spin-off. Every show has its golden couple, and no matter what plot twist comes their way, they’ll be rightfully together by that series finale because they were always endgame.

Wouldn’t that be nice?

Translate that concept into real life, and suddenly things get complicated. Some of us would love to believe that if our lives were TV shows, there would be someone out there we were meant to be with. But do real relationships actually work that way? Sometimes it’s hard to believe that “the one” could be waiting for you in your boring econ class or at the next frat party. So whether you believe soul mates are inevitable or an urban legend, Her Campus has everything you need to know about them. Swoon or scoff—it’s your choice! 

To Believe or Not to Believe in Soul Mates

Spoiler alert: Ultimately, everything about the soul mate debate is up to you. Only you can decide whether they exist, how to define them or whether to call that person your soul mate, “the one” or even your lobster (sick of our Friends references yet?).

But just in case you’re still on the fence, check out these compelling opinions from fellow collegiettes that you might just be tempted to adopt.

“I totally believe in soul mates!” says Heather Baldock, a junior at the University of Oregon. “I think first you just have to love yourself and where you are in life… once you stop looking for guys and worrying about being single and instead focus on loving yourself, then you'll find the perfect person for you.”

Northwestern University senior Iris*, on the other hand, doesn’t believe relationships are the package deal that famous TV and movie couples would have us believe.

“I think ‘soul mate’ is a concept perpetuated by the marketplace; an attractive ideal that keeps the masses attending chick flicks and paying for prime exposure on dating sites,” she says. “And frankly, I'd rather fall in love on my own terms than on the terms Hollywood scripts for me.”

For those of you who don’t feel like picking a side, don’t worry: middle ground is always possible, especially when it comes to something like soul mates.

“I'm not sure I believe in soul mates exactly,” says Samantha Galasso, a senior at Villanova University. “I think certain people are more compatible than others, but I think every relationship you have—past, present and future—all bring something to the table, and just because they're not the person you spend the rest of your life with doesn't mean the time you spent with them is any less valuable.”

What Does a Soul Mate Look Like in Real Life?

Putting the existential debate of soul mates on hold for a sec, what does a soul mate look like outside of a Hallmark card, anyway? We might not have all the answers, but we do have our love expert, our Real Live College Guy and a few lucky collegiettes to tell you their versions of the story.

Certified dating coach Marla Martenson, who wrote Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting and several other books on dating and romance, has a sweet and simple go-to definition. “My definition of a soul mate is someone that makes life sweeter and fun to go through with,” she says. “A soul mate can often challenge us to a higher standard, teach us patience and lead us to unconditional love.”

And of course, no discussion of soul mates is complete without the standard similes.

“I think that people are like puzzle pieces, and that some people are better fits for each other than others,” says Shira Kipnees, a junior at Franklin & Marshall. “My grandmother has a saying that every pot has a lid, and I think that is true as well. Everyone has someone out there who can make them even better or make them even happier.”

Sometimes, signs that your significant other is “the one” might come at times when you’re thinking about anything but your relationship.

“I knew I found that special someone when I had a major family crisis during my freshman year of college after only a little over a year of [us] dating, and [he] made sure everything would be okay,” Shira says. “Considering the fact that most guys would probably be unable to tolerate crying or even a lot of emotions, or offer to let me call at any time if I felt sad, I knew I had a keeper.”

Other times, unlike on television, “the one” might not even be just one person at all.

“I very firmly believe in finding someone to love wholly and completely for a long time—preferably a lifetime—but I also understand that one's wants and needs change as time progresses,” says HC’s Real Live College Guy, Dale. “I think it's entirely possible to have more than one soul mate in a lifetime, depending on where you stand at any given point in life.”

Have You Found “The One”? Know the Signs

While there are definitely facets of soul mates that are indefinable, how about some concrete tips for telling that he or she might be “the one”? There might be a million ways unique to your relationship, but Martenson has five good places to start:

1. “He uses the word ‘we’ in conversation, and is planning on including you in his future.”
2. “He ‘gets’ you and loves getting to know you and loves you for you.”
3. “His values align with yours.”
4. “He makes you want to be a better person and vice versa.”
5. “You can be yourself with him. There’s a comfort level like coming home with him.”

The Problem With Soul Mates

Stop right there! Is all of the above a bit too sweet for your taste? No worries… we know that the concept of soul mates has its dark side, too. “Our perception of a soul mate is often based on movies, television, books and fairy tales,” Martenson says. “The problem often arises because romantic love often falls short of that ideal.”

Even if you’re not sitting around waiting for your Prince Charming, committing to the idea that there is only one person out there for you can potentially lead to trouble.

Or, according to Iris, at least some extreme pickiness.

“I'll never love anyone the same way I loved my boyfriend when I was 15… and then I went on to love other guys and have more mature relationships,” she says. “And if I had been holding out for my perfect man—who is somewhere between Adam Brody and Neil Patrick Harris, so hey to all the guys out there—I probably never would have dated any of them.”

Our advice to not letting your belief in soul mates lead to your romantic downfall: If you’re into “the one,” don’t give up on it—just avoid coming up with a SparkNotes version of your perfect partner, because having too high of standards may mean you never take the time to crack open the right book. 

Remember, You Come First

Think of it this way: if you want to think of soul mates as two pieces of a puzzle, know that you won’t be able to fit with anyone until you have defined the shape of your own piece. Or, if you’re tired of metaphors: concentrate on your own life and self-fulfillment, and things will fall into place.

“I would advise college women to first work on themselves before searching for a soul mate,” Martenson says. “Getting in touch with who they really are and loving themselves first will out them into a position to make better choices in dating and selecting a partner.”

And who knows? Maybe your soul mate will arrive in a completely different package than you expected. Maybe he’ll be a Chandler instead of a Ross. Or maybe you’ll follow the words of wisdom of Sex and the City’s Charlotte, who suggested to her friends, "Maybe we could be each other's soul mates, and then we can let men be just these great, nice guys to have fun with." Maybe you’ll find three soul mates, or maybe you’ll discover you don’t want to find one at all.

Sure, that’s a lot of maybes, but like we said, our lives don’t have a series finale that dictates our endgames—that’s all up to you.  

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It’s happening. Excited “I’m engaged!” tweets, Instagrams of engagement rings, frightening relationship status updates on Facebook - sometimes it can seem as though everyone around you is getting ready to tie the knot. Worst of all, for the first time in your life, these people are actually the same age as you.  

Maybe you and your significant other have been together for six years. Maybe you’ve never had a boyfriend in your life and you can’t imagine yourself settling down with someone until you’re at least 40. Whether you spend your college years committed or free as a bird, we see no issue either way. A collegiette in a relationship can have just as fulfilling a college experience as a single lady. But when it comes to taking that next step—the one that will lead you towards the altar, that is—that may be better to save for after graduation.

You probably will never experience as much personal growth as you do throughout your 20s. It may be the only time in your life where you’re without obligation, free to explore whichever passions, cities and relationships you please. And while being with another person doesn’t necessary inhibit you from the freedom of self-discovery, becoming bound to that person in holy matrimony before you even get your college degree just might.

Here are just a few things we think every collegiette should try before trying on any wedding gowns. 

1. Apply to graduate school

Your education doesn’t have to end with your undergraduate graduation. Check out some grad school programs; you may not be ready to put aside the books just yet! 

2. Plan a backpacking trip in another country (or five)

Whether you plan a trip with friends, with a significant other or totally on your own, every collegiette should do a bit of traveling before she settles down.

3. Take up a totally random hobby

Have you ever tried scrapbooking? Journaling? Quilting? Starting a new hobby is a great way to discover an interest you may have never known you had (and to get plenty of "me time!").

4. Sign up for a new club

You may think you have your friend group established by senior year, but you never know who you could meet before graduation.

5. Accept a job offer in an unfamiliar city

It may be intimidating to step out of your comfort zone, but there’s no better time than right after college to explore foreign territory (even if it’s not the same city your significant other is planning on being in next year).

6. Plan plenty of girls’ nights

Whether you hit the clubs to go dancing or spend the night in with some rom-coms and a bottle of wine, take advantage of all the girl time you can get before you no longer live just down the hall from all your friends.

7. Learn how to cook for yourself

You won’t have the dining hall to depend on anymore next year. Take the time to try new recipes and test your culinary skills.

8. Give back to your community

There’s no better way to learn something new about yourself than by taking the focus off of you for a little while.

9. Earn money to pay off your student loans

Before you can think about any sort of relationship stability in your life, you should get some financial stability.

10. Get in the best shape of your life

Take advantage of free fitness facilities and your (relatively) flexible schedule to set new fitness goals for yourself. Train for a half marathon or triathlon? Why not?

11. Pursue something you’ve always been passionate about

Always wanted to work on your photography skills? Want to raise awareness about the lack of educational resources for women in Third World countries? Use your senior year to follow those passions!

12. Make the Dean’s List

Don’t just skate through senior year – make it your best academic year yet.

13. Get yourself a pet

Before you take on the responsibility of a lifelong partnership, learn how to take care of another living being.

14. Make a Pinterest board for decorating your first apartment

Forget "Dream Wedding" boards – start picking out stuff to decorate your first bachelorette pad.

15. Buy yourself a really expensive piece of jewelry

Who says only a guy can buy you a really nice rock? Save up the money, buy yourself something nice and wear it knowing you earned it yourself. 

You wake up in an unknown bed wearing last night’s clothes—or worse, wearing nothing at all. You turn to your side and see the body of a guy you might have just met the night before (sadly, he’s not as cute as he looked via your drunk goggles). Your mouth is dry, your eyes are burning, and your head is pounding—you’d do anything for a tall glass of water, a pair of comfy pjs, and a ride home. But chances are, the dreaded walk of shame stands between you and all those things. You’re not alone, we’ve all been there. Read on to hear about other collegiettes’ crazy, funny, or just plain weird walks of shame.
 

From sequin minis to clown costumes, we always seem to be wearing outfits that were not intended for wearing in broad daylight.
 
“My best walk of shame was after an 80's party. I had to walk halfway across campus in the morning in zebra print leggings and a pink tube top, carrying my heels. It was snowing and I walked by three tours.” - Sarah, Michigan State University
 
"So this didn’t happen to me, but I witnessed it. Freshman year my room had the perfect view of all the other freshman dorms. One Sunday around lunchtime, I happened to glance out the window. It was pouring outside, like bad New England style with puddles everywhere. Then I noticed this girl walking to the dorm directly in front of mine. She had a black mini skirt on, one heel (the other was in her hand), and a glittery tank-top. Her hair had probably been in a clean stylish up-do the night before, but it looked like she hadn't brushed her hair in 3 days. She had a purse in the other hand and I'm pretty sure her skirt was twisted sideways. The poor girl was trampling home in the rain, midday. The humiliation! I guarantee I was not the only person watching.” - Marion, Boston College

“I went to a Halloween party dressed like a sexy clown, partied a little too hard, and slept over my boyfriend at the time's dorm room. Needless to say, I had to do the walk of shame with a smeared red nose, striped socks, a super short polka dot dress and heels in hand. Not my proudest moment!” - Claire, Penn State University

”During my freshman year (obviously, my most shameful year in terms of hook-ups), for some reason I would only ever have to do the walk-of-shame when it was either raining or after a themed costume party. This being said, my worst walk-of-shame ever was the ever-feared November 1st: the morning after Halloween. I had gone out as a not-so-innocent Alice in Wonderland, and regretfully made the decision to stay the night at my current hook-up's dorm. The next morning, not only was it freezing outside, but it was also pouring down rain, thus leaving me no choice. Yes, I borrowed my hook-up's rain-coat which, as you can imagine, was longer than my costume, forcing me to traipse across campus seemingly naked to onlookers.” - Chloe, New York University

“It was the weekend before my birthday and my friends and I were out celebrating at a club. I ended up going home with a guy and begged him for a ride home in the morning when I realized how far away his place was from mine. He said no so I began my birthday walk of shame with a tiara in hand. Halfway back to my place, I ran into a girl who was wearing an oversized men’s tee and carrying her high heels. I laughed, smiled, and said “good, you too.” We instantly bonded. I was happy to hear she didn’t even think I was on a walk of shame. This poor girl was so embarrassed and ashamed but I think I helped ease her nerves by chatting about our nights, our majors, and life in general. Lucky for her she only had to walk about a block, I on the other hand, had to walk all the way across campus. I almost wore my birthday tiara from the night before just to spice things up a bit. Imagine the stares I would have gotten!” - Megan, University of Southern California

Humiliation Saving Tip #1: Bring a change of clothes if you think you’re going to spend the night out. 
If you don’t plan these things (most of us don’t), ask the guy if you can borrow a pair of sweats. At the very least, wash the smeared makeup off your face and tame the wild post-hook-up hair.

Things get real awkward when we run into our professors, ex-boyfriends, siblings, former hook-ups or innocent church-goers on our infamous walks home.

“Walking to my car from my hook-up's room, I ran into my professor walking his dog on campus the day after Halloween. I was still in a miniskirt... it was snowing. He said, ‘you're a little bit underdressed.’” - Michelle, Central Michigan University

“I was coming back from my boyfriend's apartment at 7:45 one morning so I could shower and change before class. I looked like a complete mess (unbrushed hair, smudged makeup, heels, the whole nine yards), so I hoped I wouldn't see anyone I knew on the way back. I swiped into my building and took the elevator up to my floor, thankful I hadn't seen anyone I knew, when the elevator doors opened and a former hook-up walked in! We had ended on very, very bad terms - he lied to me, I lost my virginity to him, he stopped talking to me entirely, and I had a false alarm pregnancy scare... and did I mention he lives across the hall from me? - and he definitely knew why I was coming back to the dorm so early. Talk about awkward!” - Lauren, Arizona State University

“I was visiting my friends at a nearby college when my best friend informed me the guy I had a huge crush on (who went to my college) was also visiting his friends at the other college. While we were out partying, we decided to go to the house he was staying at, but unfortunately he was still at the bar. The guys veered me in the direction of another guy and before I knew it I was in bed with the new guy. The next morning, I woke up and walked downstairs to find the guy I was supposed to hook up with sitting on the couch eating cereal. We both knew each other existed but had never been formally introduced before. I said, ‘nice jersey’ and quickly walked out of the house followed by the guy who I had hooked up with the night before. Luckily he drove me back to my friend’s apartment. I’m still mad at myself for missing out on hooking up with my crush.” - Christina, Western Michigan University

“The summer after freshman year, I developed a crush on a really close guy friend. I told him how I felt, but apparently I was too late... he said he had previously had feelings for me, but was currently dating my friend's horrible roommate who absolutely hated me. Needless to say, it got messy (I'm not sure who lets me have a cell phone when I drink... but that's another story). After all that drama, I ran into another guy at a party that I had seen out before and thought was adorable. We started talking, hung out all night, and I ended up going home with him. I woke up super early so that I could walk back to my apartment without having to endure any awkward encounters with people on their way to class, but man I wish I would have waited. I walked out the door (in my dress and heels, tights in hand, and morning-after makeup and hair) and came face-to-face with my freshman year crush. I mumbled "Hey," and ran by, but man, was that awkward! I was not expecting to see anyone, let alone him. He didn't even live in that apartment complex! Needless to say, after that we really never talked again. He was really conservative, and since it was pretty obvious where I was coming from, that turned him off completely. Whoops! I still laugh about it every time I think about it.” - Kaille, Purdue University

“Nothing like walking out of the guy's room you hooked up with last night, just to see a guy you used to hook up with sitting on the couch staring you down. It’s a small world after all.” - Rachel, University of Michigan

Humiliation Saving Tip #2: If you have any idea that you might run into a certain someone you’d rather not see post-booty, take an alternative route home.
If you do happen to run into them, smile and act casual. Do not, under any circumstances, show that you are embarrassed or ashamed.

It’s easy for our dirty little secrets and nightly escapades to be broadcast to the entire campus.

“So last Wednesday (no judgment) my friends and I went to this pretty exclusive club, and we all got a little wild and I ended up going home with this really cute Colombian guy from my school. Things get hot and heavy and clothes came off and I ended up staying the night. The next morning I go to look for my dress and bra and I can only find my tights, fur coat, and high heels. The guy and I searched for almost 20 minutes and couldn't find either- and I had my first business class that I couldn't miss. So I was forced to walk of shame in tights, fur coat and high heels, (fake eyelashes still on) all the way back to my building. It was humiliating, but not as humiliating as it was when he announced across our English classroom a couple mornings later that he found my dress in the drawer he keeps his condoms in. Needless to say- I must have made quite the first impression in class.” - Mackenzie, Suffolk University

“My sophomore year I was hooking up with this guy who went to Boston College. I went back to his place with him one Thursday night but I had class early Friday morning.  It was my first time sleeping at his place and I had no idea where I was in relation to anything.  I left at 7am and in a haze he gave me directions to a busier street to find a cab, but I'm completely directionally challenged and was barely listening to him.  By the time I got outside, I realized I was wearing my barely there mini skirt, and 5 inch heels from last night.  On top of all that, I was also wearing one of his t-shirts that just hit my knees. I kept trying to tie his t-shirt up so it didn't look as long, but I think that only made matters worse. I looked like a hot mess, but I figured it was 7:30 in the morning and that, in a college town, there was NO way I was going to run into anyone on a Friday morning.  Well, I was wrong.  Not only did the Boston College girls’ lacrosse team run by me during their practice (pointing and laughing) but I was apparently also the morning entertainment for EVERY truck in the city.  Seeing as I have no sense of direction, I ended up at a nearby hospital where, for some reason, there were at least 30 people… of course all staring.  I was on the phone sobbing to my best friend while I desperately looked for a cab.  When I finally found a cab, the driver couldn't help but laugh at me and lecture me on pre-marital sex.  To say I was mortified would be an understatement.  BUT of course, that wasn't the end.  When I rushed out of the cab in front of my apartment (praying that I wouldn't see anyone), a girl in my sorority was walking out and pointed out to me that I wasn't wearing any underwear.  I ended up skipping class and sleeping off the embarrassment.  Who knew so much could happen before 10 am?” - Nicole, Boston University

“I spent the night at a frat and woke up the next morning to start my walk home. I thought I looked funny wearing my party clothes from the night before, but then I got on the bus and came face-to-face with one of my guy friends. He had purple and green marker all over his face. I instantly started cracking up and soon realized he had no clue what could be so funny. Come to find out, he had no idea there was anything on his face. His frat brothers had drawn all over his face after he fell asleep. The bus driver admitted that she noticed the colorful designs on his face but didn’t have the nerve to tell him. It was hilarious but I did feel a little bad for him!” - Christina, Loyola University Chicago

Humiliation Saving Tip #3: Keep your stories hush, hush and avoid highly populated locales such as buses, trains, and the center of campus.

Walks of Shame happen to the best of us so hold your heads up high and strut your stuff home. Who cares if you get a few funny stares or disapproving glares? It’s all part of the college fun (just make sure to be safe). We’d love to hear your best/worst/funniest/most embarrassing morning after or walk of shame stories, so share away!

Forget the conventional “Heart U 2” V-day cards. Relationships are never that simple, so it’s about time someone made cards to fit our unique romantic and platonic situations. These cards aren't the most tactful, but they'd certainly get the point across. You can say goodbye to mixed signals once Hallmark makes these 11 brutally honest Valentine's Day cards.

1. For guys who can’t take a hint

“Roses are red, violets are blue, I’m sorry to say I’m not into you.”

2. For guys in the friend zone

“I value you our FRIENDship so much. You are like a brother to me because I care so much about you and I would never kiss you. Happy Valentine’s Day, FRIEND!”

3. For your friend with benefits

“Let’s not make it weird. Today is like any other day of the year. P.S. You’re sexy!”

4. For a boyfriend

"I like you, but I don’t love you… yet. Unless you love me. In that case, I’d have to think about it. I’m glad we agreed on no gifts so early in the relationship, though... crap, you bought me a gift?!"

5. For your long-term boyfriend

“For Valentine’s Day, I would like a ________________. Please help me out and just tell me what you want. I’m running out of ideas! Thanks babe, love ya!”

6. For a complicated relationship

“Happy Valentine’s Day, or sad Valentine’s Day, depending on how we're doing. I love/hate you!”

7. For the guy friend you want to date

"Have a happy Valentine’s Day and make a move on me already—or just the first thing I said, if the second thing weirded you out. Can we still be friends (or more)?"

8. For your ex

"Remember when you planned that super romantic date for me last year? I don't either. Have a mediocre every day."

9. For your best girl friends who are taken

“</3 Your boyfriend is alright... as long as he realizes you’re actually mine.”

10. For your best girl friends who are single

“Can we be crazy cat ladies together? <3, your purrrfect match”

11. For your single self

"Happy Singles Awareness Day, you strong, independent woman! Take the money you aren't spending on a significant other and buy yourself something chocolatey or sparkly. You're welcome."

Technology has become a driving force in our everyday lives so it’s no surprise that we can now use it to spice up our sex lives, too. Do you have a new crush who you want to move things along with? Send a sext! Have you been hooking up with a guy but it’s getting stale? Send a sext! Have a long-distance boyfriend who you can’t see very often? Send a sext! The best part about sexting is that it’s fun for everyone, no matter what your relationship status is… that is, of course, as long as you do it right! We’ve all heard the horror stories of sexting gone wrong so Her Campus is here to give you the scoop on how to have safe sext!
 
Rule #1: Have Anonymous Sext

Okay, okay so the title of this rule may go against everything you’ve ever been told about sex, but trust me this is the best way to keep sexting safe. If you are going to send pictures of yourself, keep them anonymous! “I like to send ‘slightly naked’ photos of myself to my boyfriend,” says Megan*. “Usually, it’s just a little cleavage or my butt barely peeking out from under one of his sweatshirts. It’s enough to get him excited without making me nervous about anyone accidentally seeing them.” A good rule of thumb to follow is this: if anyone close to you ended up seeing the picture, would they instantly know it was you? If a stranger saw it on the internet, would they recognize you if they saw you in person? If the answer is yes to either of these questions, then you’re not being anonymous enough! Remember, no pictures of your face; identifying features such as a mole, piece of jewelry, tattoo, piece of clothing, etc.; and no captions with the picture that mention anything personal!
 
Rule #2: Keep it PG-13

While sexting by definition is R-rated, there are ways to keep it PG-13. There are plenty of sexts to send that don’t cross the line: partially nude photos, artfully done pictures of parts of your body (artfully = strategically hiding your naughty bits!), flirtatious texts about your relationship (whatever that may be), and maybe even plans to meet up later without specific details, just implied intimacy. Sexting should be fun, but it can definitely damage your reputation if the guy decides he wants to show his friends. So that means no completely nude photos of yourself, no raunchy texts back and forth, and no promises about what you’re going to do to him later. If it’s something you would never want anyone else to see, not even a good friend, then you probably shouldn’t send it!
 
Rule #3: No Drunken Sexting

Alcohol has a tendency to impair your judgment in a major way – surprise, right? So although you knowthe cutie in your calculus class would love to receive a naughty text from you – and I’m sure he would – it’s probably not the best idea at 2 in the morning after a few too many vodka-tonics. Your best bet is to save the text you were planning to send as a draft, and then revisit it in the morning to decide if you’d still like to send it. Odds are you won’t still want to, but if you do then go for it… as long as it abides by our other rules!

Rule #4: It Should Be Mutual

It always seems to be the girl’s responsibility to turn a guy on, and that’s not fair! If you’re the one taking all of the risks with sexting without receiving anything in return, speak up or just stop giving it up. While it’s always nice to have a guy drooling over you, make sure that he’s not taking advantage of you by making him reciprocate. “My boyfriend used to just have me send pictures of myself, but he would never send anything back,” says Amy*. “I started to feel like a toy to him so I stopped doing it. Once he realized that it wasn’t fun for me anymore, he started to flirt back by sending sexts about how turned on he was, which led to more conversation.” You can flirtatiously let him know that he’s not being fair by saying “Aw, it’s no fair I never get anything from you…” or “Ok, now it’s your turn!” He will get the hint and if not, then stop sexting – he will find a way to get it started again.
 
Rule #5: Have Consensual Sext

Your reasons for sexting should always be your own, which means never let a guy pressure you into doing something you aren’t comfortable with, even if it’s not ‘sex’ as it’s typically defined. Sexting is just as intimate as the real thing so if you aren’t willing to send photos, talk dirty, or even just flirt via text, then don’t! There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting to be intimate in person. Technology can be intimidating, and it’s your prerogative to sext or not to sext. If a guy is pressuring you for a sext, let him know in a cute way that it’s not going to happen by saying something like, “I’d rather talk about this in person…” or “Maybe we can make that happen later tonight.” If he still tries to push you, then make it a little more clear: “I don’t feel comfortable sexting – I prefer physical contact ;)” He’ll get the hint, but it won’t push him away.
 
So now that you have our rules for sexting, you’re probably wondering how to apply them. We’ve put together a few ways to safe sext whether you’re a beginner or advanced – there’s something for everyone!

• Send photos that imply something more, such as a photo of your unmade bed or a picture of your lingerie drawer
• The ‘…’ is your best friend: If you add dot dot dot to the end of any sentence, it makes it sound flirty no matter what. For example, “I can’t wait to see you later…”
• If you want to get a guy excited, start by complimenting him on something he did the last time you two hooked up. You can make this as tame or as naughty as you want. For example, “I can’t believe what an amazing kisser you are…” or “Last night was so amazing”
• Take Megan’s advice and send ‘slightly naked photos’, such as a picture of your cleavage, your butt in a pair of jeans, your legs in high heels, etc.

The true key to safe sexting is to stay within your comfort zone. Trust your instincts – if you aren’t sure you can trust him with a photo of yourself, then don’t send one. If you aren’t sure how he will respond to a sext from you, then the two of you probably aren’t at that level yet. Sexting, just like physical sex, will always be the best if you feel safe, comfortable, and protected. Have fun!

 
* = Name Has Been Changed

Ever since Lizzie McGuire hopped onto the back of Paolo’s Vespa, we’ve all thought about how great it would be to travel abroad, romance a handsome stranger who has an adorable accent and spend a few weeks exploring another country with our dreamy, foreign fling. Studying abroad is all about exploring new places, trying new things and being spontaneous, so this could be the perfect time to have a casual fling with a hottie who can show you the ropes to this new, foreign lifestyle of yours.

If you’re studying abroad, the prospect of finding love can sound more appealing than ever. The only problem is, you may not know where to look for it. Whether you’re looking for a nonchalant fling or even a serious boyfriend while you’re studying abroad, here’s a little advice for how to make it happen!

Looking for a Casual Fling?

Whether you’re planning on studying abroad for a few weeks or a few months, it’s inevitable that you’re going to have to go home eventually. That’s why sometimes it’s better to keep your study-abroad romance more on the casual side. This guy won’t be the kind of guy who’s going to introduce you to his parents, but you’ll definitely want to take lots of pictures with him to show off to your friends back home!

“I was studying abroad in Florence, Italy, this past semester and ended up hanging out with this one guy I met at a bar almost the entire time I was there,” says Katie*, a junior at University of San Diego. “I told him upfront that I was only going to be there for a few months, so we decided to keep it super casual and I ended up having a really great time with him! I knew there were no strings attached and I would be leaving soon anyways, so I didn’t feel any pressure to make it work or impress him.”

Hanging out at local bars and clubs is a great way to meet cute local guys. Just make sure he’s not a skeezy local before you decide to make a move and put your flirting skills to the test.

“I would say that most of the locals know where the American college students like to hang out, so they’ll go there to pick up girls,” Katie says. “They know what they’re doing! They’ve done it before. You just have to be okay with the fact that you might not be their first American fling.”

Studying abroad is all about exploring new things and being a little bold, so don’t shy away if a dreamy Italian man asks you to dance or the hot guy from Madrid offers to buy you a drink. One of the most important things about studying abroad is seizing every opportunity that’s thrown your way, and we definitely consider a good-looking guy with a cute accent a worthy opportunity! Just make sure you’re being safe; if a guy is really giving you the creeps, don’t ignore your instincts, and don’t accept a drink you didn’t see the bartender make.

Don’t be afraid to approach a guy and start a conversation or invite someone to dance with you either. Men in other countries are often much more forward when it comes to romancing a pretty lady. While not every suave foreigner you meet will be looking for a lifelong romance, don’t let that stop you. When you keep things casual, you won’t have to deal with painful goodbyes or lingering feelings once you’re back in America. You get a few weeks of carefree fun before it’s time to head back home. No strings attached!

Looking for Real Romance?

Whether you’re under the Eiffel Tower, admiring the coasts of Greece or salsa dancing in Spain, you can’t help but let the beauty of your surroundings make you feel all lovey-dovey inside. And while the nightlife is one of the best parts about studying abroad, you’ll have a much better chance at a lasting romance if you meet a guy in a more casual setting. Maybe you’ll meet your dream guy at the café around the corner, or maybe he’s waiting for you at the local museum. Exploring the city around you may just lead to you running into someone who could be your next great love.

Taylor, a senior at the University of San Diego, may not have found the love she was looking for while studying abroad in Italy, but her best friend sure did!

“My best friend Lindsay* and I were studying abroad in Italy, and the first week we were there, she met this guy while we were exploring Venice,” she says. “We were sitting in a little café reading and he came up and asked her about the book she was holding. I felt like we were in a movie. I was surprised they hit it off so fast, but even more surprised when she told me she was in love with him after the third week of knowing him! I thought she was crazy and that it would fade once we got back home, but it’s been over a year now and they’re still dating!”

There’s no one place you should go when looking for a real romance. The guy of your dreams could be anywhere; you just have to keep an open mind! He could be a street artist in Paris or a waiter at the restaurant you and your friends go to, or you could meet him right after you throw that lucky penny into the Trevi Fountain. When you truly immerse yourself in the culture and make an effort to talk to the people around you, you’re bound to meet at least one worthy love connection.

Learning a little bit of the native language may help you in your endeavors to find your foreign fairy tale as well. If you can converse with the natives in their language, they’ll appreciate it. A language barrier can really hinder a budding romance, so make an effort to learn at least a few words and phrases before you embark on your study-abroad adventure. This could be the perfect excuse to put those years of high school Spanish, French or Italian to the test. Make sure you at least know the word amore!

While finding your one true love in another country sounds super romantic, it’s also important to remember that long-distance relationships can be hard. Before you commit to your super cute Italian/Spanish/Australian/Irish boyfriend, make sure you’ll be willing to put in the effort to make it work once you get back home.

Don’t Overlook the Cute American!

While you may be stuck in the mindset that your study-abroad fling is going to speak a different language and show you around his city, it’s important to remember that there will be tons of other college guys studying abroad with you, too. The best part is, they’ll get to go back to the States with you when your semester comes to an end!

“I think when you’re studying abroad with other guys from your school, it’s not as big of a deal if you hook up,” Katie says. “Since you’re in another country, you’re a little more carefree and you kind of feel like the rules don’t apply. What happened in Italy stayed in Italy!”

Whether he goes to your school or not, nothing will make you guys bond like attempting to read foreign maps, trying new foods or getting lost in the city. Plus, you won’t have to worry about any language barriers with this guy.

Another plus to dating an American in a foreign country is that they’ll be just as stoked as you are to see all the sites. Your American fling will be just as excited as you are to put a lock on the love bridge in Paris or take pictures pretending to hold up the Leaning Tower of Pisa.

“I was on a tour in Rome while I was studying abroad and met this really cute guy in my tour group,” says Natalie, a junior at Seattle University. “We really hit it off and I found out that he goes to University of Washington, which is really close to my school! I think everyone hopes to go to another country and meet some hot foreign guy—I know I did—but I never expected to fall for an American while I was in Rome. I guess it’s kind of ironic that I had to go to another country to meet him!”

Don’t be shy if you meet a cute American who you’d like to get to know better. The fact that you’re both immersed in a new culture is the perfect excuse to bond and a great opportunity to invite him to explore the city with you. Invite him to try the cute pizza joint around the corner that everyone has been raving about or to check out a local art gallery with you.

Moral of the story: if you can’t find the Paolo to your Lizzie McGuire, then you can always go searching for Gordo!

Whether you’re looking for a lasting romance or a short-lived fling, a study-abroad romance could be the perfect addition to your foreign adventure. He may be the guy of your dreams or he could just be just a fun story to tell your friends about later––either way, we hope you find a little amour wherever you study abroad!

*Names have been changed.

School: UIC

Name: Earvin Regacho

Year: Sophomore

Major: Kinesiology

Birthday: Nov 6, 1993

UIC Life

Local or Commuter: Local, JST

What are you involved in on campus? Intermural Sports and Kinesiology Club

What do you love about UIC? Spark in the Park

What do you dislike about UIC?“All the crime alerts!”

Fun Facts

If you had a theme song, what would it be? "Hold on We’re Going Home" by Drake

Favorite music: Everything but country

Favorite chick-flick: Pitch Perfect

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?“Living in the Trump Tower and blowing cash.”

Love Life

Interested in: Women

Single or Taken: Taken

Celebrity Crush(s): Emma Watson and Emma Stone

Deal Breaker: “If she picks her nose or farts in public…”

Deal Maker: “If she knows how to cook”

Dream Date: “Early dinner on Michigan Avenue, followed by professional sports game after. Desert and then a walk along Lakeshore.”

Halloween

Favorite thing about Halloween: “The candy!”

Favorite scary movie: Sinister

What are you being for Halloween?“Luigi!”

Favorite past Halloween costume: Pirate

School: Emerson
Name: Jake Sigler
Year of Graduation: 2016
Major: Writing, Literature, & Publishing
Hometown: Yorktown Heights, NY
Status: Single
Sign: Virgo

Turn-ons: Determined, has a good sense of humor, and doesn’t take herself too seriously
Turn-offs: Conceitedness and selfishness

If you had to choose just five songs to listen to for the rest of your life, which songs would you pick?
1. “Semi-Charmed Life” by Third Eye Blind
2. “Sunday Morning” by Maroon 5
3. “Love Song” by 311
4. “Superman” by Five for Fighting
5. “Lose Yourself” by Eminem

Celebrity crush?
“Emma Stone. She’s pretty perfect.”

Perfect first date?
“So long as it’s with Emma Stone, it would be perfect.”

Best pick-up line?
“I don’t use pick up lines, but if I did it would be, ‘I’d use a line on you…but I’m too intimidated by your beauty.’”

If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
“Aruba. Blue water, clear skies, no worries.”

First thing you notice about a girl:
“Her eyes.”

Three fun facts:
1. I have a tattoo of a quotation mark on my left shoulder.
2. I’ve been playing soccer since I was two.
3. I’m a poet.

Basic Facts

School: U Maine

Name:  Thomas Buckley

Nickname:  TJ

Hometown: Berwick, Maine

Relationship Status: Single

Sign: Taurus              

Campus Life
Major: Business Marketing
Favorite thing about UMaine: The weekends
Favorite place to eat in Orono: Johnny’s (old town)
Best Class: Women studies
Worst Class: Math

Best Professor: Suzhong Tian
How do you like to spend your weekends here: Studying for finals. 1 page of reading = 1 shot of alcohol

Miscellaneous 
What is on your ipod's top rated: Thrift Shop

 Boxers or Briefs: Briefs
An embarrassing confession: I like older women
Ski or Snowboard: Ski
Salty or Sweet: Sweet
Dream job: Be my own boss and tell other people what to do.
Biggest Pet Peeve: Slow drivers 
Favorite Guilty Pleasure: Oatmeal Pies
Three words to describe yourself: Funny, smart, articulate

Favorites
Favorite Barstool Segment: Smokesmash
Favorite Quote: “Grab a brew, Don’t cost nothin’”- Animal House
Favorite song to dance to at a party: Gangnam style
Favorite food: Chicken on chicken on chicken
Favorite sports team(s): Patriots, Celtics, Bruins
Favorite Beer: Rolling rock
Favorite App (game or otherwise): Snapchat

The Nitty Gritty   
Craziest place you've ever had sex:  In school, during class
How do you let someone know you're interested in them: Initiate a conversation and or poke on Facebook
What do you want girls to know about you: I’m a hopeless romantic
What do you look for in a girl:  Eyes, nice smile
Deal-breaker: Girls who don’t like kids
Celebrity Crush: Emma Stone
Celebrity Man-Crush: Tom Brady

School: Emeroson

Full Name: Kiernan Zehring

Academic Year: Freshman

Major: Journalism

Hometown: Roxbury, Connecticut

Relationship Status: Single

Astrological Sign: Cancer

Biggest turn-on: Intelligence, sense of humor, then looks.

Biggest turn-off: No manners.

Celebrity crush: Emma Stone.

Future goals/ambitions: Have a successful television production career, or any career as a successful entertainer.

Involvement at Emerson: I am an assistant producer and editor for GME’s weather segment, and a “Speechless” panelist on The Emerson Channel (Mondays at 8)

Hobbies/interests: Acting, Filmmaking, Watching TV, and adventuring.

Fashion trend for girls that you don’t understand: Jeggings.

First thing you notice about a girl: Teeth and eyes.

Theme song to your life: “Little Secrets” by Passion Pit

Most embarrassing song on your iTunes library: “Hips Don’t Lie” by Shakira… No comment

Best part of your Emerson experience so far: Working on “Speechless” on The Emerson Channel.

Idea of a perfect date: Dinner at a nice restaurant, then a trip to a movie.

Favorite movie quote: “Did I adequately answer your condescending question?” –Mark Zuckerberg (The Social Network 2010)

Guilty pleasure: “Halloweentown”

Best pick-up line: “Hey I just met you, and this is crazy, here’s my number. Text me if you’d like, but you shouldn’t call because that would feel awkw

School: McGill

Name: Patrick Zeng

Hometown: Ottawa, Canada

Birthday: February 19

Year: U2

Major/Minor: Major in Finance, Double Concentration in Accounting & Information Systems

Dream Job: Basketball player for the NBA

Realistic Job: Some Management Guy

Relationship Status: Single

Celebrity crush (male and female): Adam Levine. As a (straight) guy, even I can appreciate his chilling vocals, calm demeanour, and that impeccable jaw line. But I’ll have to take my girl Emma Stone over him any day, sorry Adam! Who says Gingers don’t have souls?

What do you look for in a girl? Somebody who is smart, funny, and easy-going! Also, a little hint of spice is always nice ;)

Three words describing yourself: Passionate, caring, and proactive

If you could have a superpower what would it be? Teleportation; I could get to class/work without making any effort at all. No more stupid traffic or waiting for the bus…

Guilty pleasure food: Chicken Shawarma with extra garlic sauce

Words to live by: When you long for a life without difficulties, remember that oaks become strong from large contrary winds and diamonds are formed under constant pressure.

Favourite time of year at McGill: The beginning of the school year, no doubt! Summer weather, frosh, OAP, reunions, and that slight surge in motivation to “make up for last year” before reality finally kicks in.

Best class you’ve taken at McGill: Applied Corporate Finance with Hammami. “Things get spicy, but you’re going to learn to like it!” 1.5 hour presentations, a case and report every week, an absolute massacre!

Craziest thing you’ve ever done: Paraded the Eaton Centre in a cave-man costume and video camera screaming the McGill Chant… in March…. MCGILL ONCE, MCGILL TWICE, HOLY…oops.

School: FSU

Name: Alex Bluteau

Year: Sophomore

Major: Environmental Studies

Hometown: Boca Raton

When Alex isn’t hard at work studying, he is out playing with the Florida State Rugby team.

Mikaela Mcshane: So Alex, I’m sure school and rugby keep you pretty busy. Do you have any other hobbies?

Alex Bluteau: I try to find time to get outside and be active, aside from rugby. I really enjoy hunting, fishing, boating, mountain biking and four wheeling. Honestly I like anything that gets me out in the fresh air. Growing up in Boca I am used to a more outdoor-oriented lifestyle, and I sometimes really miss the water.

MM: Being a single guy on Florida State's campus, what do you look for in a girl? Which qualities are you most attracted to you?

AB: I need a girl who will hold her own in a conversation - intelligence is extremely sexy, A good sense of humor is also absolutely essential. I like to have fun and I need a girl who is confident enough in herself to be able to take a joke, and tease me back a little too. I love athleticism in a girl. It’s very attractive to see a girl who respects herself enough to take care of her body.

MM: You said you like smart, sassy athletic girls. Who would your celebrity crushes be?

AB: I usually associate actresses with the characters they are the most known for. To name a few I would say, Olivia Wilde, Scarlet Johansson, Emma Stone and Kate Beckinsale.

MM: Where do you see yourself after college?

AB: I hope to have a career involving environmental science and to be living somewhere on the water. I really want to love the job I have - I never want to be one of those people who dreads going to work in the morning.

School: UNC Chapel Hill
Name:Holden Hughley
Hometown: Salisbury, NC
Major: Political Science and Central European Studies
Year: Freshman

Funny, buff, and charming -- he’s the perfect gentleman with a mischievous wit. No, this is not the new Disney prince, but rather this week’s Campus Cutie. He doesn’t brood like his namesake, Catcher in the Rye’s Holden Caulfield, but rather utters sarcastic jokes in his silky baritone voice. This week’s dreamy Campus Cutie, Holden Hughley, is definitely someone you should get to know.

Favorite study spot: First floor of Davis Library

Best Coldstone flavor: The German chocolate cake one

Fun fact: I’m a black belt in karate. Also I have my own theme song.

Motto: “you can never eat too many burgers”

Biggest turn-on: A girl with a really cute nose. That is the best thing ever.

Relationship status: Single

Celebrity crush: Emma Stone

Perfect date: I don’t know. Hmmm….most of my ideas are just really lame. What’s cool? Give me a couple options here.

Favorite food: Gyro

Man crush: I’m torn between Patrick Stewart and Burt Reynolds

Dream job: Government diplomat

Future family plans: I want one boy and two twin girls.

Favorite part of UNC: There is so much stuff that is so cool about Carolina. I can’t even pick one.

Best country: Germany

Favorite superhero: Batman

Biggest turn-offs: Girls who smoke. Just in general, people who chew with their mouths open. It really makes me angry. I can’t talk to those people.

Pirate vs. ninja: Pirates are really cool. I’d just take the scurvy and gold.

Best pick-up line: I had a really good anti-pick up line: “if I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put your sister and I together.” But I’d never use that if I was trying to get with a girl.

Holden Hughley is far from normal, but that just might make all the difference in the world to some lucky lady. Say “hi” to this Campus Cutie if you see him around!

School:Western Ontario
Name: Greg Wong
Program: 2nd year Social Science 
Relationship Status: Single
Dream Job: Teacher/Astronaut 
Celebrity Female crush: Emma Stone 
Ideal Date: Blue Jays game

Favourites:
Movie – Casablanca 
Television Show – Happy Days
Place on campus – Saugeen-Maitland Hall
Band – Creedence Clearwater Revival
Things to do on a Wednesday Night: Rick McGhie at the Spoke 
Twitter to follow: @DrewGROF

Breaking up sucks. Taking down your Facebook relationship status and having people comment, “Ohemgee, why?? Call me!” is arguably even worse.  Your ex-relationship with your ex-boyfriend can turn into a grey area online. What do you do with all those photos of you two kissing right after he won his big game or all dressed up at your sorority formal? Do you stop following him on Twitter? You don’t want to be too dramatic, but at the same time, you really, really don’t want to see photos of him and that girl who was just his “friend” snuggling up at his frat party.

We here at HC are going to take you through all the specifics of a break-up online, step-by-step so that you can be prepared to handle the situation like the cool, calm, and collected collegiette that you are.

Updating your relationship status

Whether you had “in a relationship” or nothing there at all, switching to single can get pretty public, especially in your timeline, where top moments are literally magnified on the page (so unnecessary). If you’re thinking about changing your status to “single” but don’t want all the attention (like that creep who’s been stalking you since freshman year commenting, “So, coffee sometime?”) you basically have two options: you can either change your status at a time when you know traffic to Facebook is low (like the wee hours of the morning) or you can simply hide the news from your timeline. When you’re trying to move on, it’s usually a good idea not to have your break-up be the talk of Facebook town. It will only perpetuate the sadness or anger you feel about the end of your relationship.

Posting statuses and tweets

I’m staging a Kanye intervention (#immalety’allfinishbut…). Typically, status updates or tweets—from cryptic to blatantly obvious—about your break-up or your ex are not a good look for you. They stir up and perpetuate all the negative attention from the break-up, which, if you ask us, doesn’t make that cutie who has had his eye on you since freshman year want to approach you. While it’s hard to keep things completely private when you’re on Facebook or Twitter, there are ways to limit the dirty details. Those Kelly Clarkson song lyrics you just posted? Yeah, everyone knows you’re talking about him. Emotional outbursts? Reign them in. Here are a few examples of what you shouldn’t let slip online:

We are never, ever, ever getting back together.
And with a status like that, I’m sure that’s true.

Guess you were just collecting your jar of hearts.
Oh, gosh. Just stop.

LuVinG S1ngL3 Lyf3! #don’tmissyouatallJohn…
which is clearly why you’re still thinking about him? If you were really having so much fun, you wouldn’t have the time to even think about letting the entire world know.  

Like this if you hate LIARS!
Come on, you’re better than that. Break-ups are rarely one-sided, so if you don’t want to be put on blast, don’t put him on blast. Online warfare is just not conducive to moving on.

So sad and lonely…can someone bring me marshmallows?
The flip side of avoiding the defiant or aggressive online updates is an announcement like this one. Is pity really the kind attention you want to draw to yourself? You’re totally allowed to feel sad, but it would have been better if you just texted your best friend to get you those marshmallows.

Now that you know what you shouldn’t do, what should you do?  We talked to some of our very own collegiettes for their take on how to deal with a break-up online.

Deleting and posting photos

“When my ex and I broke up, I deleted some profile pictures that had him in it and untagged some quasi-romantic pictures,” says Kelsey, Boston University ’14. “My mentality was that those pictures didn't reflect my current life, so why should I have them all over my wall.”

We’d say this is a good alternative to un-tagging all 400 pictures of the two of you together. Profile pictures and recent wall photos are game, but anything else can make it seem like you’re going on a bitter, broken-hearted rampage, even if that’s not your intention. Plus, who’s to say you won’t want those photos later? (Example, girls’ night in: “I can’t believe you were crying over him—look at this photo! You’re so much hotter!) There’s a way you can make certain albums or photos visible only to you—but if the temptation is too great to look at those photos and become nostalgic, untagging or deleting is definitely the way to go.

You may also be hesitant to post pictures of yourself in the party scene or with a new guy… will he think you’re trying show off? If that’s your concern, you can also make those photos private, but keep in mind he might be posting new pictures, too.  Whether breaking up was a mutual decision or not, you’re both free to do what you want without the other’s approval. 

As for the photos you don’t have power over (like pictures of him with his arms around three different girls) it’s best if you keep your online distance: no liking or commenting. That rule applies even if he puts up a caption that’s meant to provoke you.  An online war is just not the way to go, and you need space and a clear head in order to move on. 

Liking, comments, general online interaction

You don’t have to stop liking or commenting completely—but it is probably a good idea to put a little space between your profiles if you decide to stay friends.

“I had a bad break-up with my boyfriend freshman year and ever since, I've removed my relationship status from my profile (even though I've dated other people since),” says one collegiette, UNC ’13. “It made me realize how awkward it is when you break up with someone and it's announced to the world (plus people can leave comments on the break-up—even more awkward!). I didn't interact with him at all on Facebook for a month or so—no likes, no comments, no nothing--because it felt too weird since we didn't end things well, but I think he wrote on my wall first.”

Unfriending, deactivating or blocking your ex

Maria from Virginia State University ‘16 supports cutting your ex off online. “Usually I unfriend the person just because it helps me get over them,” Moses says. “Out of sight, out of mind.” 

But Kelsey from BU disagrees. “[I] think there's something extremely catty about deleting your ex on Facebook,” she says. “Shortly after I posted pictures of a newly single me going out to parties with my friends, my ex deleted me on Facebook... and then proceeded to tweet about it.”

These three forms of cutting off your ex on Facebook can be seen as either dramatic or absolutely necessary. You should do what you need to in order to get over your ex—but keep a few things in mind:

Unfriending
Unfriending someone who you’ve gotten to be really close with can be painful for you.  However, if you’re worried about checking his profile too often, then this is probably the best option—just make sure that you know it’s not out of spite. 

Deactivation
Your entire Facebook doesn’t revolve around him. Out of sight, out of mind is important, but leaving Facebook entirely? Don’t shut yourself off from the world because you had a break-up.  Facebook can be a great rebound tool!

Blocking
Unless your ex is hounding you down with aggressive messages, we’re not sure this is absolutely necessary.  After all, if you’re worried about checking his profile too often, this doesn’t exactly solve the problem because you can always un-block him. Self-restraint would be a better form of censorship. What you can do is hand over the keys of your Facebook to a trustworthy friend—have her change the password and keep you away for a few days.  This goes for Twitter as well. That way, you can avoid doing anything rash—like a status update or blocking your ex so you’re not tempted to Facebook stalk him—and have some you time to think about what to do next.

Moral to the story?  This was your relationship, not everyone else’s. Take some time for your emotions in private, so that you can handle your break-up online in the best way possible. Chin up, collegiettes!

We’d love to hear your input for how you deal with a break-up online—let us know in the comments below! 

My summer boyfriend and I broke up in August because we decided not to do long distance, and it took us a while to start talking again. Mid-semester, I started getting messages from him about random things, like the fact he was going to Jerry Springer and comments on how he missed me. We would talk, but I didn't really seek it out. 

But come Thanksgiving break, he asked to see me again and ended up taking me out to dinner and refusing to let me pay, and during winter break he did the same thing. He has too good of manners to just ask to hook up, but we did hook up after the most recent date. He also asked to see me again later in the week. I'm not sure if I want a relationship, but I can't tell if this is him wanting to hook up again or if he is looking to casually date or if he just wants a way to pass time at home. – Confused and Conflicted at Conn Coll

Confused,

It sounds to me like he wants to start dating again, but he isn’t sure how to deal with the distance. I think it’s safe to say that he misses being with you.

Breaking up can obviously put a strain on a platonic relationship. You go from dating someone to barely talking, and things get weird. “Do I talk to him?” you might ask yourself. Meanwhile, he’s wondering how he’s going to move on. Someone eventually gets the desire to check up on an ex, either through Facebook stalking or actual conversation. This can happen for a multitude of reasons: sometimes we’re genuinely interested in how our ex is doing, sometimes we want to see if she’s moved on (or moved up to something better) and sometimes we just miss that level of contact.

Whatever the reason may be, having post-breakup conversations can be either very limiting (especially if they takes the form of an argument) or extremely eye-opening. After taking some time to take care of yourself and find out what you’re really looking for (if anything), it can be cathartic to talk things out with an ex.

Why? It gives you a chance to find out what exactly went wrong. In your case, it was distance. The two of you decided not to do distance, and that’s fine––but what happens when one of you realizes that distance doesn’t matter? What happens when one of you decides to power through the distance because you actually want to be with the other person?

This is what I think is going on with your ex. I think he’s coming to terms with the fact that, even with the distance, he still likes you and wants to continue your relationship. To me, I think he’s feeling things out to see if he’s going to get shot down. I can’t say I blame him; no guy wants to hit that wall of rejection.

You said it yourself: he’s too nice of a guy to flat out ask for a hook-up, so I believe he’s testing the waters by watching your reactions. The thing is, by hooking up with him you’re kind of leading him on…especially if you’re still not sure if you want a relationship.

Where do you go from here? Talk to him. Not on Facebook, and not over text. Next time you see him in person, I think you need to sit him down and find out what the next steps should be––but I think you should do that only if you take some time to figure out what you want for yourself. I’m not saying that what he wants isn’t important, but you can’t jump back into a relationship just because he misses you. That’s not fair to him, and it isn’t fair to you.

Raise your hand if you have a Pinterest board (secret or not) devoted to your future wedding. Don’t worry; you’re in good company! If you’re guilty of spending a little too much time dreaming of the big day, then you know that Pinterest is a treasure trove of beyond adorable DIY ideas that can make even the biggest wedding-phobe swoon over white gowns and color schemes. Regardless of your current relationship status, these totally unique finds will have you planning your dream wedding, stat. 

1. String a canopy of lights over your guests to create an intimate, cozy atmosphere. 

2. Start the big day off right with a colorful bridesmaids' brunch.

3. DIY name cards are more fun and personal!

4. Ombré is a modern take on the traditional wedding cake. 

5. Give each guest his or her own photo op with a Polaroid guest book! 

6. Print the program on the outside of a paper bag and then fill it with confetti or glitter for guests to throw at the bride and groom.

7. How adorable is this DIY vintage mailbox?

8. Macarons are possibly the cutest wedding favors ever.

9. Instead of a boring old layer cake, create a cupcake tower masterpiece!

10. Painted Mason jars are an easy yet elegant way to display flowers.

11. “Save the Date” postcards are affordable, unique and easily customizable.

12. With a wedding party Instagram hashtag, your guests can contribute to making the day even more memorable! 

13. Mini Coke bottle wedding favors are a super cute vintage touch.

14. A truck that sells donuts and apple cider. Enough said. 

15. For a truly fairytale-worthy wedding, make an aisle runner out of colorful flower petals.

16. A photo collage gives everyone in the wedding party a chance to showcase their personalities! 

17. For ultimate class, gold-sugar-rimmed champagne glasses are a must.

18. Who says the bride has to wear white?

19. Winter wedding = hot chocolate bar.

20. We love the idea of taking hilarious bridesmaid "mug shots." 

21. To celebrate true love, name each table after a different famous literary couple, like Romeo and Juliet or Gatsby and Daisy! 

Whether you’ve just started dating a new guy or you’re attempting to snag a campus cutie, you’ve probably done a couple of crazy things to keep him interested. Texting him cute messages and offering him little compliments here and there are nice gestures, but how can you demonstrate to your guy just how head-over-heels, gaga in love you are?

Here are just a few ways to make sure your guy knows how crazy you are for him (and, consequently, just how crazy you are).

1. Favorite every tweet he's posted since 2011.

2. Talk about which features of his you’d like your future kids to inherit.

3. Send his parents friend requests on Facebook.

4. Use FACEinHOLE.com to put pictures of the two of you on the bodies of various celebrity couples.

5. Attend all his intramural basketball games as the unofficial team cheerleader.

6. Change your name in his phone to “My One and Only.”

7. Send him a Snapchat every morning when you wake up so it’s like he’s waking up next to you.

8. Get a T-shirt screen-printed with his face on it.

9. Memorize his schedule so you’ll always be waiting for him outside of his classes.

10. Accompany him to the gym so you can cheer him on as he lifts weights.

11. Bring him homemade soup in bed when you see him post on Facebook that he caught a cold.

12. Send him text messages with winking emojis throughout the day.

13. Give him a framed photo of yourself to put on his bedside table.

14. Spray your signature scent all over his sheets.

15. Memorize the lyrics to his favorite songs and serenade him whenever you get a chance.

16. Endorse every skill he has listed on LinkedIn.

17. Instagram a picture of every “first” the two of you have together (e.g. first movie together, first ski trip together, first Chipotle burrito together, etc.).

18. Sit with his friends whenever you see them in the dining hall and keep turning the conversation back to how great he is.

19. Put on a magic show where you handcuff the two of you together and “accidentally” misplace the key.

20. Change his computer background to a picture of the two of you.

21. Download a tracking device onto his cell phone so that you can always find out where he is.

22. Give him a sweater with a heart sewn inside one of the arms so he can always wear your heart on his sleeve.

23. Ask him what he wants for Christmas… next year.

24. Show him apartments that the two of you could move into together after graduation.

25. “Like” every photo he appears in on Facebook with another girl and ask him who they are later.

26. Leave an extra toothbrush in his dorm room.

27. Buy him season tickets for all of his favorite sports teams.

28. Put him down as your emergency contact on medical forms.

29. Steal one of his hoodies and wear it for weeks straight without washing it because “it smells like him.”

30. Get his initials tattooed on your wrist.

31. Make up a nickname for the two of you by combining your first names and insist that everyone refers to you by it.

32. Take random candid photos of him when he isn’t paying attention.

33. Hunt him down whenever you know he’s in the library so that you can bring him a coffee.

34. Tweet quotes of every funny thing he says.

35. Verbally assault any girl who looks at him for too long.

36. Volunteer to do his laundry for him.

37. Break into his dorm room and cook him smiley-face pancakes for breakfast.

38. Tell the waiter to bring you one drink with two straws when you go out to dinner.

39. Make a copy of the key to his dorm room while he’s in class.

40. Cut off a lock of his hair when he’s sleeping so you can keep it with you.

41. Call him daily and describe every dream you have about him.

42. Post every link that reminds you of him to his Facebook wall.

43. Change your schedule so you have all your classes together.

44. Buy him a one-way plane ticket so he can come visit you for an extended stay this summer.

45. Sign the two of you up for premarital counseling.  

46. Tag along on guys’ nights and refer to yourself as “The Honorary Bro.”

47. Leave him voicemails of the free-verse poetry you wrote for him in class on his phone.

48. Find a way to hold his hand whenever he’s close enough for you to reach it.

49. Make him a mannequin with your exact measurements so that you can always lie beside him in bed, even when you’re not there.

50. Hang a banner in the quad proclaiming your undying affection for him so everyone can know.

Sure, he may be a little overwhelmed by all this affection, but you wouldn’t want him to doubt your love, would you? (Just don’t be too surprised when he starts to doubt your sanity instead.)

It’s the most romantic day of the year…until you end up basically sitting in the lap of the couple next to you at an exorbitantly expensive Valentine’s Day dinner, wondering if the gift you got your boyfriend was too much or not enough.  We have all fallen prey to Valentine’s Day snafus (don’t even get me started on Valentine’s Day 2006)—from lingerie mishaps to dining disasters. This year, to keep you embracing candy hearts and pink cupids, Her Campus has compiled 20 cute things you can do with or for your boyfriend on Valentine’s Day. What are the most unique and romantic ways to celebrate? What does your boyfriend really want? How can you spice up the day without stressing out? We have you covered.

1. Be a snow bunny
I know, I know, we’re all tired of freezing every time we step outside and slipping on ice when we walk to class. But few things are as romantic as playing in the snow with your boyfriend on Valentine’s Day. Channel your inner 10-year-old and head outside for a snowball fight and snow angels—I’m sure your man will be happy to keep you warm.

2. Dress the part
The easiest way to spread Valentine’s cheer is to go elementary school and wear pink and red. Meet your boyfriend for a day date in fitted jeans and a pink top or sport a red mini for your night together. For after hours, try Victoria’s Secret Valentine’s-themed lingerie.

3. Give a gift that keeps giving
As I searched for the perfect gift for my boyfriend last Valentine’s Day I knew he loved two things, beer and lots of beer. It was with this information that I stumbled upon Amazing Clubs. Amazing Clubs is a website that lets you send a 6-pack of gourmet beer to your boyfriend every month for as many months as you choose. If beer is too pricey you can also order coffee, BBQ sauce or ice cream. 

4. Go ice-skating 
The HC team’s number one recommendation for a perfect Valentine’s date is ice-skating.  If romantic comedies have taught us anything, it is that skating rinks breed romance. So go have yourself a Serendipity moment and spend the day ice-skating with your BF—don’t forget the cocoa!  

5. (Or skinny dipping) 
If ice skating is too tame and your school is in a sunny place, many HCers recommend nighttime skinny-dipping. Seriously, not much is hotter than a steamy late night swim. Just be careful please, getting caught trespassing might kill the mood. 

6. Buy him tickets to a sports event
If you want all of his friends to be saying “you seriously have the best girlfriend ever, ” tickets to his favorite sporting event are the way to go. Not only will you make his night and show that you’re into his interests, but you’ll also get to share something special to him, together, and what’s better than that? StubHub is a great place to look for discounted tickets. 

7. Dinner in bed
Going out for Valentine’s Day dinner is a tradition that needs to go. Unless you’re Posh and Becks the service is bound to be terrible, the menu limited, and the prices steep. Instead, try ordering in from a favorite restaurant and eating the meal in bed. Spend the night relaxing over good food and cozy company instead of cramped with strangers.

8. Indoor picnic
Harvard collegiette Olivia Ford suggests taking the dinner in bed idea even further with an indoor picnic.  To decorate your space, string white Christmas lights around the room, buy some picnic-y snacks, pop the champagne and set up a blanket and pillows for you and your boy to sit on. Oh, and don’t forget to ask your roommates for some alone time!

9. Cook it!
 Strawberry bellinis, chicken parmesan, spaghetti and chocolate mousse—nothing will make your man swoon more quickly than a delicious Valentine’s meal. If you are feeling ambitious and extra sweet, cooking dinner for your boyfriend is the way to go. If you are an all-star in the kitchen, check out The Food Network’s Valentine’s Day food and dessert recipes. However, if you’re like me and cooking a full gourmet meal is not a possibility, look at ifood’s simple recipes like heart-shaped pizza. Also, if your boyfriend is up for it, cook dinner together—it will be surprisingly sexy to see your guy move around the kitchen.

10. A classic card
Whether you’ve been dating for a while and want to tell him how you feel or haven’t been dating long at all but want to show you care, a card goes a long way.  Get out the construction paper, doilies and stamps and get artsy. For amazing card ideas, check out Martha Stewart’s card projects. When it comes to writing, a cute poem or heartfelt message is always a hit. Cosmo came up with an awesome list of tips for writing a Valentine’s Day card—read them here.  

11. Set a budget and make it fun
Let’s face it, Valentine’s Day can get pricey.  Instead of stressing about buying an expensive gift, set a budget with your guy and get creative. For 10 dollars you could buy a cheesy V-day themed stuffed animal, bake cupcakes or better yet purchase massage oil to really make his night.

12. Personalize!
Go the extra mile and let him know exactly why he means so much to you. To really touch him this Valentine’s Day, personalize your gift. A great (and cheesy, but come on, so cute!) gift you can make or buy is Lovopoly. Lovopoly is monopoly customized with memories and photos. Another idea from Tulane student Catherine Combs is to buy your boyfriend a deck of cards and write a memory or inside joke on each card.

13. Head to Victoria’s Secret
To ensure a smile on his face this V-day, the HC team recommends wearing hot underwear that he has never seen before. Let’s be real, what makes him happier or you feel sexier than a new lacy bra? My bra pick is VS’s Very Sexy balconet bra because it provides a lot of lift (and padding!) but still looks flirty.

14. Take him down memory lane
Even though Valentine’s Day is about celebrating the moment, there’s no better day to reflect on what makes you so happy with your man in the first place. A great way to celebrate your relationship is to make a scrapbook—look through old pictures, find cute stickers and paper and then channel your inner Warhol. If making a full scrapbook is too time-consuming, make a collage card or mini scrapbook.

15. Splurge on a hotel room
If you are willing to splurge on a gift, why not get away from roommates and sharing twin beds (no matter how much you love sleeping right next to your boyfriend!). Sometimes, the best way to get in the mood is to invest in a change of space. Spend the night ordering room service, cuddling in a big bed, and taking bubble baths…what could be better than that?

16. Meet him at class with hot chocolate
This year February 14th falls on a Friday, so why wait until nighttime to celebrate? Make him a thermos with hot chocolate (for the record, classic Swiss Miss with mini marshmallows is the best) and surprise him outside of class.

17. Coupon book
It’s true, coupon books are hardly a new concept, but what guy doesn’t want his Valentine’s gift to last all year?  Make him a coupon book for things like fresh-baked cupcakes, a movie night or a massage—and feel free to spice it up!

18. Help him out
If your boyfriend is the one planning your special night, channel your inner domestic and help your man out. Do some laundry, make his bed or wake him up with breakfast. It may seem old-fashioned but hey, housewives can be hot and he’ll appreciate the help.

19. Get drunk! (just kidding)
While getting drunk on V-day is probably not the best idea, making Valentine’s Day-themed cocktails with your boyfriend is a fun and festive way to celebrate the day. Make each other drinks post-dinner; after all, ending Valentine’s Day with a homemade Be Mine Mojito doesn’t get much better. If you’re under 21, check out these awesome mocktail recipes! 

20. Be appreciative
I know, we can all get a little carried away with a Valentine’s Day fantasy. But even if you spent the past three weeks dreaming of sailing on a yacht with your boyfriend or opening a Tiffany’s box, be appreciative if he gives you a teddy bear. I’m not talking being understanding if he forgets the day altogether, but V-Day can be a little stressful for everyone, so make sure to acknowledge the effort he makes—you will have more fun and he’ll be thankful to have such an appreciative girlfriend!

* If you’re looking for city specific date ideas, howaboutwe.com has compiled a list of top dates around the country (but most of them work anywhere!).  

You rise and don't shine at an unreasonable hour because, as a single girl, there's not much to look forward to on Valentine's Day.

On the bright side, you don't have to slave away in the kitchen cooking breakfast in bed for anyone.

But that also means you don't have anyone to cook you a fancy breakfast. Packaged food it is.

Things could be worse. Pop-Tarts still taste pretty darn good at 11 a.m., so you tell yourself that you don’t need a man to enjoy the day.

You walk to your afternoon class seeing people with heart-shaped balloons and bouquets of roses, but you act completely unfazed.

Sure, it’s sad that you aren’t receiving any gifts, but it also means you're not spending a bunch of money on a significant other.

Even when you seclude yourself in your room, you can't seem to escape the onslaught of public displays of affection. Facebook is the worst culprit, with its never-ending feed of lovey-dovey relationship statuses.

But as much as you try to play the "happily single" role, there is a part of you that's like:

And your loneliness hits you like a ton of bricks.

But your bitterness toward the couple-centric holiday eases up when one of your best friends surprises you with a Valentine's gift.

Because as much as you wanted to hate today, her kind gesture gives you a tornado of mixed emotions.

The twisted look on your face makes her say,

To which you reply,

The two of you decide to make the best of things by planning a girls' night later with your other single friends.

But really, the occasion is just an excuse to consume an unhealthy amount of chocolate...

...as well as gossip and vent about your respective boy problems...

...and drink wine from a box, like the classy ladies you are.

It sounds like a winning game plan to everyone in attendance.

After an evening with great company and indulgent food, you decide that spending Valentine's Day as a single woman isn't all that bad.

But you warn your friends that your opinion may change when the chocolate runs out.

While it may feel like you’re still recovering from the holiday season, you’ll need to get your head back in the game as Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching. If that seems daunting, don’t worry: we’ve got you covered. Whether you’re looking for ideas for your guy of 3 weeks or of 3 years, we’ll inspire you. And if your Valentine struggles in the gift department we’ve got some ideas for him that you can leave open on your computer screen or subtly send to him. Everyone is happy this way, right?

Gifts for Guys

Car Service

“No gifts this year,” you and your significant other agree on and decide just to go out for a nice dinner. You know you won’t be chipping in for dinner, so here is how you can make the night extra special: hire an UberX driver! The affordable, and yet luxurious (hello bottled water, impeccably clean cars and suited drivers) car service will make you and your sweetie feel VIP all night long. Check to see if your city has Uber. Starting at $3.

Boxers

If it’s still early in your relationship – funny boxers will show that you thought of the 14^th, but have a sense of humor about the fact that you’re not at the “I love you” point of your relationship. These satin finished boxers won’t break the bank, but they will make him break a smile. Walmart, $7.

Chocolate

Put a twist on the traditional V-Day gift with Create my Chocolate. You can make your Valentine chocolate with anything from ground chili to walnuts to mini cookies. YUM! Starting at $7.90

Mini champagne

Toast to your great relationship with these cute mini bottles of champagne! Perfect for those (in warm weather) who can spend their night on a romantic picnic! Korbel Brut $4

“Beauty” Products

Guys need to pamper themselves too! With these six guy-friendly products from Kiehl’s your guy will be able to look and smell amazing! $58

Bucket of Dates

Put a twist on the standard gift of “coupons” with a collection of dates folded up and mixed together – so that you and your sweetie can choose a fun date from your suggestions whenever you’re in the mood. Some ideas to include: movie night (his choice), bowling, volunteering, laser tag, dinner at your favorite restaurant, and a walk around campus at dusk.

Framed photo

Put your touch in his bedroom by taking the time to actually print a photo of the two of you (crazy!) and frame it for him.

Headphone splitter

Perfect for you and your guy if you listen to music at the library together or travel and watch movies on your tablet often. You will be even more inseparable with this cutesy headphone splitter so you two will always be on the same wavelength. Amazon, $11

Gifts for Girls

Guys: we know you already know about the JCF of Valentine’s Day (jewelry, chocolate and flowers). And we know, that you know what kind of accessories, sweets and blooms your girl likes best. If your girl pointed you to HC or you’re over buying from the JCF, we’ve got you covered with the below ideas!

Sheets

We know you like buying practical gifts, and usually we might discourage that, but a new, nice set of sheets is one thing she “needs” that will make you seem like a romantic. Support her sweet dreams (of you, naturally) with jersey sheets. Target, Starting at $18

Manicure/Pedicure

Help her get pampered for your big Friday night date (yes guys, that’s what day of the week Valentine’s Day is this year) by surprising her with a gift certificate for a manicure/pedicure the morning of the 14^th. $25

Luxury Candle

Provide the romantic lighting and keep her dorm room smelling like a million dollars with a gorgeous, and sweet smelling, candle from Izola. Amazon, $33

Artwork

Decorate her walls and set her heart aflutter by gifting her a sweet poster that demonstrates your feelings for her, like this Birds on a Wire Poster. All Posters, $13

Plant

If you want your love to grow, tell her, and then sweeten your sentiment with this I Love You Plant Kit. Perpetual Kid, $7

Wallet

Practical and pretty! This envelope wallet from Kate Spade Saturday might not “show” your love, but she’ll think of you every time she pulls out her ID or money (read: every day) — so what could be better? $80 

Scarf

Struggling through the polar vortex? This super soft infinity scarf, enhanced with a delicate angel’s wing, will keep her snuggly warm (even when you’re in class). Donni Charm, $89

Robe

This super feminine, peony embroidered robe is another practical gift — but it’s more gorgeous than anything she’d ever get for herself. Anthropologie, $89 

You can only read the menu so many times before eventually deciding on the lasagna, lowering the wine list, and making grown-up conversation with your date.  For the nights when the witty dialogue you rehearsed in front of the mirror is failing you, pull out these go-to conversation starters to silence the metaphorical crickets. 

“Tell me about your family. Brothers? Sisters?”

Families are complicated. Everyone has a crazy uncle or a messy divorce or a long-lost twin that they’re not trying to bring up over appetizers. But they also have funny stories that you’ll relate to—who hasn’thad a weird family secret revealed at Thanksgiving after Grandma got a little too tipsy. By asking about his family without prying or probing, you can learn a lot about your date.  And maybe even his equally handsome long-lost twin!

“So are you a movie person or a TV person?”

Warning: Do not ask this question if your taste in either movies or TV shows is incredibly lame. (“Oh you like The Godfather? I’m a huge fan of Stomp The Yard…”) But, if you watch a show you’re not embarrassed to admit you enjoy—generally speaking this excludes all Bravo, TLC, and Oxygen programming—ask away.  And don’t let him get away with worshipping Weeds when everyone knows Breaking Bad is better.

“What’s the best trip you’ve ever been on?”

You don’t need to have traveled the world to have interesting stories from amazing trips. Don’t hate on your date if he hasn’t been to Milan, but think twice if he can’t stop talking about a sleazy spring break booze cruise.  Maybe he went on an “epic” road trip with the boys, or a family-vacation-turned-awesome—it’ll get you talking!

“Have you ever been on a truly horrible date? I feel like they’re fake, right?! Like out of bad chick flicks.”

As long as his answer isn’t, “Well, I mean, this date is up there,” you’re good to go. Either he hasn’t been on any horrible dates (in which case he’ll admire your perceptive observation) or he has hilarious stories (in which case you can laugh at another girl’s misfortune… oh, relax, no one needs to name names).

“So how’d you pick this place [or activity]? Is there a story there?”

Even if the castle you’re touring isn’t his family’s summer property (it could happen!), chances are there’s a reason he brought you to that particular spot.  Whether there’s a great story behind the linguini with clams or it’s just his favorite restaurant, you’ll spark conversation. And finally find out why he insisted you order the linguini with clams.  

“I fully acknowledge that this is a nerdy question, but do you have any good book recommendations? I actually need something new to read.”

Not every guy is a reader, so this question is not meant to be a test whereby you judge his intellectualism and self-worth.  If he’s never read Dostoevsky or Faulkner, that’s OK.  But maybe you’ve both read something recently that you can chat about or recommend.  Don’t turn the date into a book club—at least not without inviting me!—but literature and romance have been known to produce one another.  And it gives you something to talk about.

“Are you an animal person? I feel like the world can be separated into animal lovers versus non self-identifying animal lovers.”

Follow-up questions include (but are not limited to): Cats or Dogs? Kittens or Puppies? Best YouTube animal video? Did you have an animal growing up? Oh, you’re allergic to animals and this was a weird thing to ask? Oh, I just came across as a crazy cat lady? Let’s move on…

“OK this is the deal breaker: what was the first CD you bought? No judgment.”

A nice point of entry into the “let’s talk about music and find out we both love the Beatles and then make out” conversation, without being so upfront.  No shame in admitting you saved up three weeks worth of allowance for a Spice Girls CD, because chances are at one point he knew every word to every Blink 182 single. 

“What’d you do last summer?”

Asking what someone studies is boring. Asking what someone wants to “be when they grow up” puts the person on the spot.  Asking your date what he did last summer (besides being vaguely evocative of the 1997 horror movie) let’s him talk about his life in a concrete, interesting way.  Whether it’s humbly sharing top-secret information from a trendy internship or making you laugh with stories from a dead-end job, this question sets your date up for success. 

“Were you a Disney Channel Original Movie guy? One Saturday Morning? No? Just me? You didn’t grow up on Hey Arnold and Are You Afraid of the Dark?”

Nothing bonds two strangers like nostalgic reminiscence. And this is a discerning question to ask because, if he grew up in the United States between the years 1990 and 2000 and doesn’thave fond memories of Boy Meets World, you probably want to end things now.

If you can talk to your grandparent’s friends, you can talk to anyone.  Ask questions, resort to fallback topics, share stories from your own life, and remember that you’re on a date and not a job interview.  So show some cleavage.  Just kidding… kind of. Have fun.